Do you love yourself? I mean, really love yourself, or do you figure that is not your job? How do you know how to love another person, or expect others to love you if you can’t love yourself? If you’re not kind to yourself, how do you expect others to be kind to you? If you don’t treat yourself well, how do you expect others to treat you well? These are legit questions, you need to consider, as they are all a part of loving who you are. You are unique. No one else can be you. People may want to be “like” you, but they can never “be” you.
You can know if you really love yourself with a quick self check. Do you take compliments well, or do you brush them off? If you mess up, do you tell yourself how dumb you are? Do you make fun of yourself to make people laugh? Do you look in the mirror and pick apart the things you don’t like? Are you confident in your abilities, or overthink your every move? Do you stand up for your boundaries, or bite your tongue? Questions like this will usually make us uncomfortable if we don’t love ourselves. Its time to stop doubting your greatness, and love the uniqueness of you.
The world can tell you how bad you suck, you don’t need to do it too. It’s time for you to stop doubting your greatness, and love the uniqueness of you. Accept those compliments with a simple “thank you”. Find some things you like about you that don’t make you gag, and tell yourself them several times a day. Take care of your body through prayer, meditation, exercise and eating good foods. Live life without comparing it to others. Chances are, you’re jealous of their happiness, not what they actually have. Be happy for them, and do your own thing. Forgive yourself for the stupid shit that happened in the past. It does nothing more than add more weight. Change your inner talk. When you find yourself talking some nasty crap, nip it and change the dialogue to something kind. If you can’t be kind, at least be true. We have moments in life we suck and our inner person will beat us to death about it for hours. Acknowledge that you messed up, how you are going to fix it IF you were a jerk, fix it and then tell yourself that you’re a bad-ass that owns your shit. We all mess up from time to time, but no sense beating a dead horse. However, if you were a jerk because someone deserved it, quit beating yourself up over that crap. Let it go. Knowing your boundaries is part of loving yourself.
Are you happy with who you are and where your life is today? Do you love yourself, or just little bits of yourself? Every day we have the choice to make changes to our life to alter the direction we want to be. Yesterday doesn’t have to define us, but if we don’t wake up and decide to change our directional course, nothing changes. If we don’t choose to change the way we are thinking, nothing will change. Living a positive life takes living with intention. You can’t have a positive life with negative thinking, or by surrounding yourself with a negative tribe. You have the power to be intentional with your thoughts. We attract what we vibe, and while it may sound so cliche, it’s the secret behind living a happy life.
I was miserable in my job. It wasn’t a career, but a job. The other employees were negative, morale was down, I had no passion for what I was doing, and I certainly didn’t feel that was I was doing was putting any good into the world. Misery seeped into my world. I was having nightmares, was filled with anxiety, depression was an understatement, and no matter how much I craved happiness, it felt out of my reach. One day, I decided I couldn’t do it anymore. It was time for me to make a change. I needed to do something I felt good about doing. Something I was passionate about doing, even if that meant taking a pay cut. In life we have to make sacrifices to achieve happiness. I changed my course of action and decided to jump in the trenches and do something I was passionate about. The moment I declared my intention, life immediately began to shift on its axis. I felt it. It was an earth shattering directional change that seemed to attract what I wanted, and even though the ground was unstable, instant balance and calmness happened.
It’s common knowledge we can’t up and quit our jobs, or stop adulting, but we can make changes to our lives that will cause the directional change we crave. Keep in mind, I didn’t quit my job before having another job. We can’t drop our responsibilities and hope things just fall into place. We have to declare what we want, start action, believe it will happen, but if we are not brave enough to believe it’s within our reach, we will never attain it. You have to work for what you want, but you also have to BELIEVE that it is possible. If you don’t believe that it is possible, you will prove yourself right every time.
If you could change your life today, what would you be doing? What brings you joy?