Adventure awaits- or do you?

Life is a glorious adventure if you choose to embrace it. Many of us sit on the sidelines watching friends, coworkers, neighbors and celebrities enjoy life with envy while we wish we could be doing the same thing. We come up with excuse after excuse why we can’t do it. Why are we standing on the sidelines of life?

Generally we have two real reasons:

1) You don’t really want what they have, you want the ability to have an adventure.

2) You are not willing to dream and plan to have what you really want. Instead, you believe it’s impossible and therefore it is impossible.

If a child says I want to be a professional football player. Most of us think of our favorite player making millions of dollars. What if this kid didn’t even try? Is this kid saying he wants to play football because its his passion, be rich or famous? Which is it? What path is he going to take to get where he wants to be. As parents, we brush off the dreams of kids instead of teaching them how to figure out a path to achieve their dreams. Then as adults, we assume everything is impossibly. Really we just need to be direct with what it is you want exactly and freaking go after it. Don’t just dream it, but go for it. Standing in the mud flapping your jaw does nothing but leaving you right there with wet, muddy shoes. You need to step forward. Not every step will be easy but each step will be forward and take you in a direction you want to be IF you are willing to make forward momentum.


Make a bucket list notebook. In that notebook, think of every possible step you would need to take in order to get to the goal you want. Don’t let the fears of the unknown set you back from creating your goal list. You can’t let things hold you back if you want the life you say you want, but you have to put in the work. Once you have your list created, and you have thought long and hard about the different steps you will need to take to achieve the goal on your bucket list, get to work. Not every step is going to be fun and rewarding. In fact, some steps will be messy and feel defeating, but if you keep your eye on the goal and keep forward motion, you will get there. I remember a time I started going after something I thought I wanted, only to find a new passion along the way. I had hit a stepping stone toward my goal that ignited something I absolutely loved. If that happens, that’s okay. Sometimes our end goals change. Regardless of the outcome you can do this! Before you know it, you will be living the life you have always wanted and the people in the office will be wondering how the hell you do it.

Stop waiting to live the adventure of life and to it now!







Fired for the “R” word

The “R” word.  Back in the day, it may have been “cool” to use it as slang. As a woman with a well-rounded vocabulary, that does not get offended easily, I find using any combination of the R word extremely offensive. I don’t like hearing someone called retarded. Nothing makes me lose respect for someone faster than not only hearing that world, but also the justification of that word. Nothing justifies using it. It’s an old, outdated term used for being a dick and an uneducated term for those with mental, or intellectual disabilities.  Why does this boil my blood?


Not only do I have a kid on the spectrum, but I have a passion for and work with people of special needs. I work with all levels of needs from mental illness along with physical, intellectual and developmental disabled adults. As a person in the field, you grow an attachment to the people you are caring for. It is always professional, but it is your job to know their needs, be in tune to their needs and advocate for them. It is my job to help them live the best life they can have by reaching goals to become and be as independent as possible, teach living skills, and assist them in areas they are unable. As a person who has a passion for working with those who have extra needs, I can’t stand to hear the word. It’s offensive. To you it may just be a word. To me, I see faces. I see the face of my child, or the individuals that I work with and I can’t imagine anyone calling any of them something so horrific. Then to toss it around as if its nothing because “dummy” just isn’t cutting it pisses me off more. Grow your vocabulary. When you get to a point that nothing is off-limits, you have reached a new low. I like dim-witted ignoramus rather than such a hurtful term used as slang. Thankfully, my friends don’t use that word around me.

So knowing this information about me, you can imagine my reaction to the next scenario. I was in a training meeting, and this dude was talking to a fellow coworker about non work junk and he lets the R-word out. The big squeeze was there and fired him on the spot. How can you do the job we do, if that word is in your vocabulary. To say I was amused at the instant firing, and may have laughed inappropriately was an under-statment. Props to the big man for understanding that he wasn’t a good “fit.”

Getting off my soap box. There you have it folks. The R-words offensive. Don’t use it. If you get fired for using it, I will virtually laugh at you.


Love yourself

Do you love yourself? I mean, really love yourself, or do you figure that is not your job? How do you know how to love another person, or expect others to love you if you can’t love yourself? If you’re not kind to yourself, how do you expect others to be kind to you? If you don’t treat yourself well, how do you expect others to treat you well? These are legit questions, you need to consider, as they are all a part of loving who you are. You are unique. No one else can be you. People may want to be “like” you, but they can never “be” you.


You can know if you really love yourself with a quick self check. Do you take compliments well, or do you brush them off? If you mess up, do you tell yourself how dumb you are? Do you make fun of yourself to make people laugh? Do you look in the mirror and pick apart the things you don’t like? Are you confident in your abilities, or overthink your every move? Do you stand up for your boundaries, or bite your tongue? Questions like this will usually make us uncomfortable if we don’t love ourselves. Its time to stop doubting your greatness, and love the uniqueness of you.

The world can tell you how bad you suck, you don’t need to do it too. It’s time for you to stop doubting your greatness, and love the uniqueness of you. Accept those compliments with a simple “thank you”. Find some things you like about you that don’t make you gag, and tell yourself them several times a day. Take care of your body through prayer, meditation, exercise and eating good foods. Live life without comparing it to others. Chances are, you’re jealous of their happiness, not what they actually have. Be happy for them, and do your own thing. Forgive yourself for the stupid shit that happened in the past. It does nothing more than add more weight. Change your inner talk. When you find yourself talking some nasty crap, nip it and change the dialogue to something kind. If you can’t be kind, at least be true. We have moments in life we suck and our inner person will beat us to death about it for hours. Acknowledge that you messed up, how you are going to fix it IF you were a jerk, fix it and then tell yourself that you’re a bad-ass that owns your shit. We all mess up from time to time, but no sense beating a dead horse. However, if you were a jerk because someone deserved it, quit beating yourself up over that crap. Let it go. Knowing your boundaries is part of loving yourself.

How to get the life you desire

Are you happy with who you are and where your life is today? Do you love yourself, or just little bits of yourself?  Every day we have the choice to make changes to our life to alter the direction we want to be. Yesterday doesn’t have to define us, but if we don’t wake up and decide to change our directional course, nothing changes. If we don’t choose to change the way we are thinking, nothing will change. Living a positive life takes living with intention. You can’t have a positive life with negative thinking, or by surrounding yourself with a negative tribe.  You have the power to be intentional with your thoughts. We attract what we vibe, and while it may sound so cliche, it’s the secret behind living a happy life.


I was miserable in my job. It wasn’t a career, but a job. The other employees were negative, morale was down, I had no passion for what I was doing, and I certainly didn’t feel that was I was doing was putting any good into the world. Misery seeped into my world. I was having nightmares, was filled with anxiety, depression was an understatement, and no matter how much I craved happiness, it felt out of my reach. One day, I decided I couldn’t do it anymore. It was time for me to make a change. I needed to do something I felt good about doing. Something I was passionate about doing, even if that meant taking a pay cut. In life we have to make sacrifices to achieve happiness. I changed my course of action and decided to jump in the trenches and do something I was passionate about. The moment I declared my intention, life immediately began to shift on its axis. I felt it. It was an earth shattering directional change that seemed to attract what I wanted, and even though the ground was unstable, instant balance and calmness happened.

It’s common knowledge we can’t up and quit our jobs, or stop adulting, but we can make changes to our lives that will cause the directional change we crave. Keep in mind, I didn’t quit my job before having another job. We can’t drop our responsibilities and hope things just fall into place. We have to declare what we want, start action, believe it will happen, but if we are not brave enough to believe it’s within our reach, we will never attain it. You have to work for what you want, but you also have to BELIEVE that it is possible. If you don’t believe that it is possible, you will prove yourself right every time.

If you could change your life today, what would you be doing? What brings you joy?